How Much Would You Tolerate for a Relationship?

So...I've struggled a bit with the topic of this blog entry...because it closely ties into something that I have gone through very recently.  The topic? Relationships and Friendships and the extent of how we handle and manage each.  I'm delving into the more serious phase of relationships.  Now...I myself don't exactly have a plethora of relationship experience (people can't handle my amazingness)....but I've certainly witnessed my fair share of many relationships among some of my closest friends.  Sometimes these friendships have been tested or strained because of relationships....whether it be on the friends part or the significant others part.
Some of these things tend to stem from finding that balance between having a relationship and maintaining your bond with your close friends.  Some of it stems from peoples insecurities or jealousy.  And some of it stems from....well....plain psychotic-ness!
When you have been friends with someone for quite some time....and there is seemingly nothing wrong with your friendship....then suddenly (or not so suddenly) a significant other comes into one of your lives and problems start, whether right away or quite some time after seeing each other,.....who do the problems really lie with?  I have quite a few examples that I can talk about because well...I've gone through issues with almost all of my best friends that involved relationships...but the situation I want to focus on here is the most recent...because I feel it was one of the most drastic.
Without dragging out quite a long story...I lost one of my CLOSEST friends this past fall because their now husband decided to become completely irrational, jealous, insecure...and for lack of a better word...a complete control freak.  This person, literally out of the blue, started giving my friend a hard time about the most INSANE things...most ridiculous of all being that he accused her of having slept with me for the past 4 years prior to their marriage.  REALLY?  But seriously.....REALLY?!  (I pride myself on being a lady-virgin...HA) But this is what sucked and what hurt the most in this whole situation.  After several weeks of this constant ridiculous ridicule and accusations against my friend...I guess she decided that it would just be easier for her to cut me out of her life for the sake of her marriage. We had known eachother since we were 16 years old...and shared every nook and cranny of our lives with each other to the extreme!  I also knew her husband for almost 4 years and we also had quite a comfortable relationship with each other.  So this was all literally out of the blue craziness.
                                                   Cue  the LC and Heidi saga-drama haha!

So that brings me to my question.  How far is too far?  How much would you tolerate in a relationship when it comes to finding a balance with your friends as well.  And can a great relationship and best friendships co-exist in near-perfect harmony?  (I say near-perfect because nothing is perfect!)
In stark comparison to this situation, one of my other BFF's has been in a relationship for nearly 2 years now.  This is someone that I am not only extremely close with and share everyone with...but shared a home with for 4 years. (RIP B-C Casa) I couldn't get along more swimmingly with his significant other.  I consider his significant other one of my best friends now.  There are never any issues, no insecurities about our close friendship or any of that.  Its just plain NORMAL and healthy! And I know many other relationships like this as well.  So yes....it is quite possible.  So why do some people get into and stay in these relationships where everything has to be a problem and you have to start compromising aspects of your life that shouldn't have to be compromised just to make your significant other happy?  Don't people realize there ARE people out there who are not like that and would not cause these types of issues in a relationship?  Now I know that nearly everyone wants to find their true love in life...but how much are you willing to sacrifice to try to find that?  AND...if you are asked to sacrifice so much...is it really a love worth holding on to?
I would MUCH rather be alone than with someone who would try to do any of this to me.  Clearly people missed the VERY important memo that 5 wise girls taught us all back in the 90's!

                                      "If you wannabe my lover...you gotta get with my friends!"

Laugh if you want but its words to live by!

I'd love to hear input on this topic! Feel free to share your thoughts and opinions!


~Corey Nicholas~